First dates have always been nerve-wracking. What if the other person doesn’t like you? What if they think your joke is stupid? What if they hate the color you’re wearing? And these days, the advent of technology has created a whole host of new issues that cause a lot of first dates to go south. In fact, market research and data analytics firm YouGov recently polled more than 1,000 U.S. adults, and found that both men and women agree that the worst thing you can do on a first date is spend it on your phone.
The poll results showed that roughly an equal share of men and women (69 percent and 70 percent, respectively) thought that it was off-putting to text your friends or scroll through your Facebook feed instead of making eye contact and interacting with the person you are trying to get to know.
Plenty of recent research has shown that technoference—as it’s been called—is not only ruining burgeoning relationships, but long-lasting ones, too. Phubbing—the act of ignoring the person you’re with in favor of being on your phone—has a deeply negative impact on relationship quality. And there’s an increasing amount of data that proves that technology is also wreaking havoc on our sex lives.
The second biggest first-date misdemeanor, according to the YouGov poll, was posting misleading photos, earning the votes of more than half (52 percent) of men and 43 percent of women. And coming in third place was chewing food too loudly, which was a turn-off for both men and women (25 percent and 31 percent, respectively) on a first date.
After that, the YouGov poll found that opinions of what made a bad first date began to diverge in terms of gender. A quarter of women said that not offering to pay the bill was a turn-off, versus only 5 percent of men. And while one in four men said that they wouldn’t like it if their date took photos of their meals to post on social media, only 15 percent of women agreed. Women also seemed much more likely than men to consider monopolizing a conversation to be a problem.
And when it comes to rejection, one-third of respondents said they would send a text or message to the other person to let them know they weren’t interested in a second date, while 13 percent said they would simply “ghost” them. But—if the data from the YouGov poll is to be believed—if you don’t want to receive an unpleasant text message on your phone from your date, you shouldn’t have been on it to begin with.